Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish ...

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: “We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?” They said: “Of course.” My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn’t know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down – that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple’s current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor’s code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you’d have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I’m fine now.

This was the closest I’ve been to facing death, and I hope it’s the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960′s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.” It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.

The Crazy One — Steve Jobs tribute

Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in square holes. The ones who see things differently. - By Steve Jobs.

There were 3 apples that changed the world, the apple that Eve ate, the apple that fell on Newton's head, and the one created by Steve Jobs. He was a true inspiration to all of us, a creative and innovative man at best. We will all miss you. You will always be with us; whether it be in our palms, in our ears, or even on our desks, yes, in our hearts too.

Hmmm... the death of Jobs, showed us how fragile, impermanent we all are and how short life is. Don't waste time! Go and appreciate your loved ones and tell them that:

Live life positively and meaningfully. Importantly, make sure you live your OWN life!

鄭丁賢 ‧ 老喬的生命軟體

Steve Jobs

24 Feb 1955-5 Oct 2011

Born in San Francisco

我要介紹喬布斯的3個故事；幾年前，他在史丹福大學演講中，講過這些故事。即使你已經聽過，也值得再聽一次，或多幾次；它們是貫穿喬布斯生命中，最重要的軟體。

就好比說，iPhone、iPad 和iMac的價值，不在於它們多麼美麗，處理器多麼先進，而在於它們能夠把很精彩，有內容的軟體，呈現給你。

第一個故事：

年輕時，喬布斯唸了6個月大學就退學。他認為，與其繳學費去讀他不感興趣的課程，不如選擇自己喜歡的學科，當個旁聽生。他就這樣流連在大學的不同課室，學不同的知識，包括學會書寫不同的字體；然而，卻也不知道這些東西有甚麼用處。

日後回顧，才發覺自己創造蘋果王國，就是從這些學習之中，一點一滴的累積起來。佛教中說因果律，不也是如此。

每一個因，都會結成一個果；這就是生命的循進。

第二個故事：

30歲時，蘋果已經很成功；喬布斯引進了史考利來管理他的公司。幾年後，史考利卻聯合其他董事，把喬布斯攆出蘋果。這是喬布斯生命最灰暗的時刻，他沮喪得幾乎要脫離這個行業。不過，他發覺自己最愛的依然是創意事業，於是從頭做起，創辦NeXT和pixar兩間公司。

沒有喬布斯的蘋果，逐漸走下坡；最終喬布斯回朝，並把他在NeXT和pixar的成果帶回蘋果，帶動蘋果衝上高峰。

這可以用佛教的業力來解釋。喬布斯被攆出蘋果，是最壞的事；但是，也因為如此，他被逼從零做起，發覺不同機緣，找到新的生機；後來更是發揚光大。壞事可以變好事，在於一念之間，要靠自己的智慧。

第三個故事：

喬布斯相信一句格言：“把每一天都當成生命中的最後一天，你就會輕鬆自在。”

他每天早上都會照鏡子，問說：“如果今天是生命中的最後一天，我今天要做些甚麼？”如果幾天來的答案都是“沒甚麼事做”，那就表示，他需要改變了。

他的一生永遠都在挑戰自己，開創生命，創造新的意義。

48歲時，喬布斯被診斷有胰臟癌，醫生告訴他只剩下3個月生命。他沒有放棄，在努力延長生命的同時，繼續的成長。iPhone和iPad就是後來的成果。

如今，他終於走到生命的終點，這是無常。但是，這也是生命的奇妙，有死亡，才有新生；就好像喬布斯的產品，當一個產品終結，在他源源不絕的創意下，就會誕生新的產品。

下一次，使用iPhone或iPad時，不妨想想喬布斯的生命軟體；或許，你會有新的啟發。

蘋果Apple CEO賈伯斯Steve Jobs 對史丹佛畢業生演講(1of3)

今天，很榮幸來到各位從世界上最好的學校之一畢業的畢業典禮上。我從來沒從大學畢業過，說實話，這是我離大學畢業最近的一刻。今天，我只說三個故事，不談大道理，三個故事就好。

第一個故事，是關於人生中的點點滴滴如何串連在一起。

我在里德學院（Reed College）待了六個月就辦休學了。到我退學前，一共休學了十八個月。那麼，我為什麼休學？（聽眾笑）這得從我出生前講起。我的親生母親當時是個研究生，年輕未婚媽媽，她決定讓別人收養我。她強烈覺得應該讓有大學畢業的人收養我，所以我出生時，她就準備讓我被一對律師夫婦收養。但是這對夫妻到了最後一刻反悔了，他們想收養女孩。所以在等待收養名單上的一對夫妻，我的養父母，在一天半夜裡接到一通電話， 問他們「有一名意外出生的男孩，你們要認養他嗎？」而他們的回答是「當然要」。

後來，我的生母發現，我現在的媽媽從來沒有大學畢業，我現在的爸爸則連高中畢業也沒有。她拒絕在認養文件上做最後簽字。直到幾個月後，我的養父母保證將來一定會讓我上大學，她的態度才軟化。十七年後，我上大學了。但是當時我無知地選了一所學費幾乎跟史丹佛一樣貴的大學（聽眾笑），我那工人階級的父母將所有積蓄都花在我的學費上。

六個月後，我看不出唸這個書的價值何在。那時候，我不知道這輩子要幹什麼，也不知道唸大學能對我有什麼幫助，只知道我為了唸這個書，花光了我父母這輩子的所有積蓄。所以，我決定休學，相信船到橋頭自然直。當時這個決定看來相當可怕，可是現在看來，那是我這輩子做過最好的決定之一。（聽眾笑）

當我休學之後，我再也不用上我沒興趣的必修課，把時間拿去聽那些我有興趣的課。這一點也不浪漫。我沒有宿舍，所以我睡在友人家裡的地板上，靠著回收可樂空罐的退費五分錢買吃的。每個星期天晚上得走七哩的路，繞過大半個鎮 去印度教的 Hare Krishna 神廟吃頓好料，我喜歡 Hare Krishna 神廟的好料。

就這樣追隨我的好奇與直覺，大部分我所投入過的事務，後來看來都成了無比珍貴的經歷（And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on ）。

舉個例來說。當時里德學院有著大概是全國最好的書寫教育。校園內的每一張海報上，每個抽屜的標籤上，都是美麗的手寫字。因為我休學了，可以不照正常選課程序來，所以我跑去上書寫課。 我學了 serif 與 sanserif 字體，學到在不同字母組合間變更字間距，學到活字印刷偉大的地方。書寫的美好、歷史感與藝術感是科學所無法掌握的，我覺得這很迷人。我沒預期過學這些東西能在我生活中起些什麼實際作用，不過十年後，當我在設計第一台麥金塔時，我想起了當時所學的東西，所以把這些東西都設計進了麥金塔裡，這是第一台能印刷出漂亮東西的電腦。如果我沒沉溺於那樣一門課裡，麥金塔可能就不會有多重字體跟等比例間距字體了。

又因為 Windows抄襲了麥金塔的使用方式（聽眾鼓掌大笑）。因此，如果當年我沒有休學，沒有去上那門書寫課，大概所有的個人電腦都不會有這些東西，印不出現在我們看到的漂亮的字來了。當然，當我還在大學裡時，不可能把這些點點滴滴預先串連在一起，但在十年後的今天回顧，一切就顯得非常清楚。

我再說一次，你無法預先把點點滴滴串連起來；只有在未來回顧時，你才會明白那些點點滴滴是如何串在一起的（you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards ）。

所以你得相信，眼前你經歷的種種，將來多少會連結在一起。你得信任某個東西，直覺也好， 命運也好，生命也好，或者業力。這種作法從來沒讓我失望，我的人生因此變得完全不同。（ Jobs停下來喝水）

蘋果Apple CEO賈伯斯Steve Jobs 對史丹佛畢業生演講 (2of3)

我的第二個故事，是有關愛與失去。

我很幸運－年輕時就發現自己愛做什麼事。我二十歲時，跟 Steve Wozniak在我爸媽的車庫裡開始了蘋果電腦的事業。我們拚命工作，蘋果電腦在十年間從一間車庫裡的兩個小夥子擴展，成了一家員工超過四千人、市價二十億美金的公司。

在那事件之前一年推出了我們最棒的作品－麥金塔電腦（ Macintosh），那時我才剛邁入三十歲；然後，我被解僱了。我怎麼會被自己創辦的公司給解僱了？（聽眾笑）嗯，當蘋果電腦成長後，我請了一個我以為在經營公司上很有才幹的傢伙來，他在頭幾年也確實幹得不錯。可是我們對未來的願景不同，最後只好分道揚鑣，董事會站在他那邊，就這樣在我 30歲的時候，公開把我給解僱了。

我失去了整個生活的重心，我的人生就這樣被摧毀。有幾個月，我不知道要做些什麼。我覺得我令企業界的前輩們失望－我把他們交給我的接力棒弄丟了。我見了創辦 HP的 David Packard跟創辦Intel的 Bob Noyce，跟他們說很抱歉我把事情給搞砸了。我成了公眾眼中失敗的示範，我甚至想要離開矽谷。但是漸漸的，我發現，我還是喜愛那些我做過的事情，在蘋果電腦中經歷那些事絲毫沒有改變我愛做的事。雖然我被否定了，可是我還是愛做那些事情，所以我決定從頭來過。 當時我沒發現，但現在看來，被蘋果電腦開除，是我所經歷過最好的事情。成功的沉重被從頭來過的輕鬆所取代，每件事情都不那麼確定，讓我自由進入這輩子最有創意的年代。

接下來五年，我開了一家叫做 NeXT 的公司，又開一家叫做 Pixar 的公司，也跟後來的老婆（Laurene）談起了戀愛。Pixar接著製作了世界上第一部全電腦動畫電影，玩具總動員（Toy Story），現在是世界上最成功的動畫製作公司（聽眾鼓掌大笑）。然後，蘋果電腦買下了 NeXT，我回到了蘋果，我們在 NeXT發展的技術成了蘋果電腦後來復興的核心部份。我也有了個美妙的家庭。

我很確定，如果當年蘋果電腦沒開除我，就不會發生這些事情。這帖藥很苦口，可是我想蘋果電腦這個病人需要這帖藥。有候，人生會用磚頭打你的頭。不要喪失信心。我確信我愛我所做的事情，這就是這些年來支持我繼續走下去的唯一理由（I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did）。

你得找出你的最愛，工作上是如此，人生伴侶也是如此。你的工作將佔掉你人生的一大部分，唯一真正獲得滿足的方法就是做你相信是偉大的工作，而唯一做偉大工作的方法是 愛你所做的事（ And the only way to do great work is to love what you do ）。

如果你還沒找到這些事，繼續找，別停頓。盡你全心全力，你知道你一定會找到。而且，如同任何偉大的事業，事情只會隨著時間愈來愈好。所以，在你找到之前，繼續找，別停頓。（聽眾鼓掌， Jobs喝水）

蘋果Apple CEO賈伯斯Steve Jobs 對史丹佛畢業生演講 (3of3)

我的第三個故事，是關於死亡。

當我十七歲時，我讀到一則格言，好像是「把每一天都當成生命中的最後一天，你就會輕鬆自在。（ If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right ）」（聽眾笑）

這對我影響深遠， 在過去 33 年裡，我每天早上都會照鏡子，自問：「如果今天是此生最後一日，我今天要做些什麼？」每當我連續太多天都得到一個「沒事做」的答案時，我就知道我必須有所改變了。 提醒自己快死了，是我在人生中面臨重大決定時，所用過最重要的方法。

因為幾乎每件事－所有外界期望、所有的名聲、所有對困窘或失敗的恐懼－在面對死亡時，都消失了，只有最真實重要的東西才會留下（ Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything - all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important ）。

提醒自己快死了，是我所知避免掉入畏懼失去的陷阱裡最好的方法。人生不帶來、死不帶去，沒理由不能順心而為。

一年前，我被診斷出癌症。我在早上七點半作斷層掃瞄，在胰臟清楚出現一個腫瘤，我連胰臟是什麼都不知道。醫生告訴我，那幾乎可以確定是一種不治之症，預計我大概活不到三到六個月了。醫生建議我回家，好好跟親人們聚一聚，這是醫生對臨終病人的標準建議。那代表你得試著在幾個月內把你將來十年想跟小孩講的話講完。那代表你得把每件事情搞定，家人才會儘量輕鬆。那代表你得跟人說再見了。我整天想著那個診斷結果，那天晚上做了一次切片，從喉嚨伸入一個內視鏡，穿過胃進到腸子，將探針伸進胰臟，取了一些腫瘤細胞出來。我打了鎮靜劑，不醒人事，但是我老婆在場。她後來跟我說，當醫生們用顯微鏡看過那些細胞後，他們都哭了，因為那是非常少見的一種胰臟癌，可以用手術治好。所以我接受了手術，康復了。（聽眾鼓掌）

這是我最接近死亡的時候，我希望那會繼續是未來幾十年內最接近的一次。經歷此事後，我可以比先前死亡只是純粹想像時，要能更肯定地告訴你們下面這些：沒有人想死。即使那些想上天堂的人，也想活著上天堂。（聽眾笑）

但是死亡是我們共同的終點，沒有人逃得過。這是註定的，因為死亡很可能就是生命中最棒的發明，是生命交替的媒介，送走老人們，給新生代開出道路。現在你們是新生代，但是不久的將來，你們也會逐漸變老，被送出人生的舞台。抱歉講得這麼戲劇化，但是這是真的。你們的時間有限，所以不要浪費時間活在別人的生活裡。不要被教條所侷限-- 盲從教條就是活在別人思考結果裡。不要讓別人的意見淹沒了你內在的心聲。

最重要的，擁有追隨自己內心與直覺的勇氣，你的內心與直覺多少已經知道你真正想要成為什麼樣的人（have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become），任何其他事物都是次要的。（聽眾鼓掌）

在我年輕時，有本神奇的雜誌叫做 《Whole Earth Catalog》，當年這可是我們的經典讀物。那是位住在離這不遠的 Menlo Park 的 Stewart Brand發行的，他把雜誌辦得很有詩意。那是 1960年代末期，個人電腦跟桌上出版還沒出現，所有內容都是打字機、剪刀跟拍立得相機做出來的。雜誌內容有點像印在紙上的平面 Google，在Google 出現之前35年就有了：這本雜誌很理想主義，充滿新奇工具與偉的見解。

Stewart 跟他的團隊出版了好幾期的《Whole Earth Catalog》，然後很自然的，最後出了停刊號。當時是 1970 年代中期，我正是你們現在這個年齡的時候。在停刊號的封底，有張清晨鄉間小路的照片，那種你四處搭便車冒險旅行時會經過的鄉間小路。在照片下印了行小字：

求知若飢，虛心若愚（Stay Hungry , Stay Foolish）。

那是他們親筆寫下的告別訊息，我總是以此自許。當你們畢業，展開新生活，我也以此祝福你們。

乔布斯：从嬉皮士到佛教徒

Steve Jobs-Apple Computer's Boss

想不想知道苹果公司掌门人, Steve Jobs 的故事?

史蒂夫·乔布斯 (Steve Jobs)，这位带有传奇色彩的苹果公司掌门人，近年已极少在公共场合现身，就连顶级报刊也无法采访到他，他的个人生活逐渐笼罩上神秘的光环。

　　2008年元旦到来这一天，史蒂夫·乔布斯（Steve Jobs）没有和家人一起庆贺，也没有去苹果公司露面。他做了两件事—白天敲定了2008年苹果电脑iMac外壳、键盘全部采用金属铝，晚上写了一封新年致辞的电邮，放进预先设计好的电子邮箱，在新年钟声敲响的刹那群发给苹果公司所有高管。而他自己很早就上床休息了，“佛教徒没有夜生活！”这是他时常挂在嘴边的一句话。

　　随着年龄、阅历的丰富，尤其是一个佛教徒的信仰转变，都使他的CEO角色越发具有智慧的光芒—他严禁下属透露他的生活细节，但是苹果公司内部那些他的崇拜者，还是用敬畏的语气对媒体说：“从前那个刚愎自用的乔布斯不见了，现在的乔布斯是一个温情主义者。”

　　吸大麻，读名著

　　可能大部分被父母遗弃的孩子在成长过程中都会出现或多或少的偏激，乔布斯也不例外，生母把他送给旧金山一户信奉加尔文宗教思想的人家后，再也没有出现过。少年时代的乔布斯具备美国战后一代的两大特点—才智超群又玩世不恭。中学二年级，他开始接触大麻，经常“吸着大麻读名著”，他的中学老师说他是“多种矛盾的集合体”，比如他既无限崇拜莎士比亚，也极力推崇“垮掉一代”文学的代表人物托马斯·戴蓝（Thomas Dylan）。16岁那年，乔布斯用两大特征—个人主义价值观和齐肩长发宣布自己正式成为嬉皮士的一员。

　　既然嬉皮起来，就要做一些另类的事情来彰显自己的与众不同。但是上世纪70年代的世界远远不是现在这个样子，没有什么领域能让人一试身手。就在乔布斯茫然失措的时候，他听说嬉皮高人约翰·德拉普发现一种能盗打免费长途电话的招数：当地一种麦片盒里作为奖品的哨子能产生2600赫兹的音频，用这个哨子向电话听筒吹声，就能激活侵入长话系统的“蓝匣子”。乔布斯马上和他的朋友斯蒂芬·沃兹尼亚克（Stephen Wozniak）开发“蓝匣子”，并以现金150美元、分期付款300美元的价格向同学大量出售，直到被警察抓到才停手。乔布斯也因此被“追加”为IT历史上老牌黑客之一。

　　也就是那个时候，乔布斯结识了生命中第一个女孩克丽丝·安·布鲁南（Chris An Brunan），乔布斯欣赏她的叛逆和坚强，因为全校只有克丽丝一个女生敢翻墙逃学。他们恋爱后，两人一起散步、喝酒、吸食大麻，乔布斯坦陈：“有一天，我们特意到一块麦田吸迷幻药，突然间，我感觉整块麦田都在演奏巴赫的乐曲。那一刻我非常兴奋，感觉自己就好像在指挥交响乐队演出。”

　　从嬉皮士到佛教徒

　　1972年秋季，乔布斯逐渐告别了迷幻药，并不是他有多么超人的意志力，而是因为他的心灵彻底被印度佛教征服。1974年8月南亚次大陆最炎热的时节，乔布斯“光着脚、穿着破烂衣服”来到印度朝圣，那是他第一次面对那么多的穷人。印度之行迫使他思考很多问题，他几乎变了一个人：“对人冷漠，沉默寡言，整天穿着黄色外袍，剃光头发”。他时常面壁参禅，最大的感悟是：“加利福尼亚嬉皮士的贫穷是一种自我选择，而印度的贫穷则是命运。”

　　1977年整整一个夏天，乔布斯都在为苹果电脑渐入佳境而兴奋不已，但是克丽丝的怀孕把他的生活完全颠覆了—多年来，乔布斯始终排斥婚姻，当然也拒绝承认自己是孩子的父亲。盛怒之下的克丽丝打碎家里的盆盆罐罐，砸坏门窗桌椅，带着满腔仇恨回到俄勒冈州的苹果农场，一场亲子诉讼大战就此拉开帷幕。1978年5月17日，克丽丝生下一个女孩，几天后乔布斯来到农场，他独自守在孩子的小床边很久，试图从她脸上验证自己的痕迹，但是，固执的苹果CEO在给孩子留下一个丽莎·妮科尔的名字后，再次否认是自己的骨肉。仿佛前生是一对天敌，自丽莎出生后，克丽丝开始拒绝在乔布斯面前“消失”，无论他去哪里、做什么、职务有多高，这个比乔布斯还要顽强的女人通过孩子提醒他们曾经共有的那段幸福时光。两年后，乔布斯终于答应做亲子鉴定，结果是“丽莎·妮科尔是他女儿的可能性占到94.97%”，但是乔布斯以“未满100%”的借口继续推诿，忍无可忍的克丽丝不得不把他告上圣玛特奥县（San Mateo County）法院，乔布斯被迫承担起抚养义务。

　　情感生活一片狼藉

　　创造力超凡的人往往都是浪漫主义者，最典型的表现之一就是容易“匆匆忙忙开始并结束一段感情”，乔布斯尤其如此—他需要女人环绕在身边激发灵感。

　　与克丽丝的诉讼还没有结束，他邂逅了一位麦金纳顾问公司（Regis Mckenna，Inc）的大美女芭芭拉·娅忻丝吉，乔布斯对她的东欧血统格外着迷，曾经一度动过结婚的念头。他经常去芭芭拉位于硅谷山上的小房子过夜，并且试图改变自己—他出售了100万美元的公司股票，在距离芭芭拉最近的小镇罗斯加托斯买了一栋房子，剩余的钱则购买了一辆奔驰双人汽车。但是乔布斯轻易不开这辆车，随后他买了一辆宝马豪华摩托，每到周末用它载着芭芭拉去斯坦福兜风，然后去山里的水库裸泳。

　　但是，这段美好恋情因为歌星琼·贝姿（Joan Baez）搅局无疾而终。随后，媒体曝光贝姿曾是同性恋，这个消息令乔布斯颜面扫地，无奈之下远走日本散心疗伤。不知什么原因，就在他乘坐日本新干线快要抵达东京时，这位亿万富翁突然对同行说了一句莫名其妙的话：“我并不是一个普通人，为什么他们一点儿不理解我？”

　　及时改变生活方式

　　对乔布斯来说，上世纪80年代的生活因为情感问题而一片狼藉，这迫使他不断自省、不断修正后面的道路。1991年3月18日，乔布斯终于结婚了，新娘是斯坦福大学的在读MBA劳伦娜（Laurene）。他们的佛教婚礼在约塞米蒂国家公园（Yosemite National Park）举行，乔布斯送给新娘的礼物是伍德塞德市（Woodside）一套1.7万平方英尺、包括11间卧室的大房子。

　　从那年起，乔布斯未曾预料到的很多事情都慢慢实现了—他找到了同样被送人的妹妹、写过《在别处》（Anywhere But Here）的小说家莫娜·辛普森，以及分别36年的亲生母亲，更重要的是，他重返苹果公司执掌大权。所有这一切，他都感谢自己的婚姻、感谢自己的妻子—及时改变生活方式是对的！

　　2004年乔布斯被确诊患上胰腺癌，医生宣布他只有3至6个月的生命，可半年后却奇迹般生还，他把这次“与死神擦肩而过”视为信奉佛教的结果。2005年，乔布斯应邀在斯坦福大学演讲，他这样回忆自己过去的生活：“我总是把一切弄得一团糟，甚至想过逃离硅谷。但是，渐渐地，我开始有了一个想法—我仍然热爱我过去做的一切，于是，我决定从头开始。”

　　乔布斯早已把第一个孩子丽莎·妮科尔接到自己身边，他不止一次夸耀：“丽莎虽然从小缺乏父爱，但是我却把聪明的头脑传给了她。”现在，53岁的乔布斯与世无争，每个周末他都腾出时间免费接待小学生到家里玩耍。2007年的万圣节，他早早等在大门口接待这些孩子们，并亲自榨胡萝卜汁给他们喝。当孩子们表示感谢时，乔布斯指着一个孩子胸前的iPod MP3播放器，微笑着说：“谢谢你购买iPod Touch，我理应为客户服务。”